There are so many amazing things that I could tell you about Ben and Olivia's big day. Like how they decided to have an Indian food buffet for dinner, or how Spice Girls came up multiple times through the course of the day, or how Olivia's brother and sister re-enacted the battling speech seen from bridesmaids as their speeches, or how they decided to forgo a wedding cake for otter pops... Instead of doing that, however, I'm going to share an excerpt from The Velveteen Rabbit that was read during their ceremony, because this is what the day boils down to. This is the most pivotal part of this phenomenal day.
"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
Published by: Bethany in Wedding